- with love, for J. ... 

You thought it might be paternalistic,

And ever since you said that,

It's been on my mind how I'd view it

Seeing as I've never really had

Anyone as a father role in my life,

So, I really can't say I'm able to

Assess the possibility it's paternalistic.

In saying that, though, I did search

In myself to see how that angle feels,

And I came to think it's nice actually,

Especially in the context of why

It was said in the first place.

You've been by my side through

So very much over the years, 

It's nice to be able to share this

Part with you, and you being happy.

It's always bothered me that I'm so

Struggling with everything of life,

And to be at this point, with you there,

Is really more than I've ever expected,

So your pride in me makes a difference.

Paternalistic it might have been, but

To me, it's a show of love I can't be

Upset about in no way at all is the truth.

Thank you for being who you are,

And for sticking by me all these years.

It's the most anyone cared to do for me, so,

No, I see nothing wrong with what you said.

It's really sweet and caring,

It makes me feel like I matter.