Observations and commentary from our recent car trip and tour of the state of Florida.
For all Educators. The human soul is a delicate thing.
"Fate Expectations"
God chooses and uses whosoever he will. The Holy Spirit is a powerful force. To "blaspheme" the "Holy Spirit" is the one "unforgivable sin", according to Christ. I think few people understand that particular verse fully, that have read it. I do believe humans can determine a good or bad path despite their particular parenting they received, or a lack of it. As a mother, grandmother, and professional art educator, I always held the view "never underestimate" a child's abilities. Our children are grown and I am in retirement and have been since 2012.I have serious concerns for many of our nations children and young people. To put it bluntly, many kids have been orphaned. I won't delve into the reasons, but for many it is drug related. Many parents have also lost their offspring to these evil drugs. My focus in this writing, is on the kids, our future.
I met many such youth in our recent travels. These were the children of the drug addicts that OD'd. Ever think about them?. One would think they'd be wallowing in their parent-caused shithole life, full of regurgitated shit. But no, that is not the case.That is not what I found. Everyone of them are on track with a good future ahead, going on to college, getting the support and nurture they need to greet success down road. It is because of other family members and good Christian sponsors, led and empowered through this "Holy Spirit", that has made the difference in their lives and giving them love and hope. I was actually surprised - there is a greater good, much more than I was EXPECTING. These babes are resilient and more like wise old souls still in their child's frame.
I am an advocate against exploitation, prejudices, racism in all forms that it rears its head.
I believe in the powers of love and loving hearts. It starts with the babes. ALL LIFE MATTERS
Believing every child has unique potential is essential. Setting preconceived expectations can unintentionally limit a student's growth, whereas approaching each child with an open mind fosters a more inclusive, adaptable, and empowering learning environment.Here is why avoiding preconceived expectations is vital, along with actionable ways to implement this approach:The Impact of Preconceived ExpectationsSelf-Fulfilling Prophecies: Also known as the Pygmalion effect, research shows that when educators expect less of students, students often unconsciously internalize these views and perform worse. Conversely, high expectations can boost confidence and achievement.Labeling and Bias: Judging a student based on past academic records, socioeconomic background, or behavioral history often causes teachers to overlook the student's current capabilities and evolving interests.Fixed Mindset: Preconceived notions lock students into rigid categories (e.g., "the smart one," "the troublemaker," or "the quiet one"), stifling their willingness to take risks and learn from mistakes.
Self-fulfilling prophecy occurs when a false belief or expectation leads to behaviors that ultimately make the expectation come true. The Pygmalion effect (also known as the Rosenthal effect) is a specific type of this phenomenon, describing how higher expectations placed on a person lead to improved performance.The concept can be broken down into a psychological cycle and contrasted with related phenomena:The Pygmalion CycleThe effect operates through a chain reaction:Belief: You form an expectation about someone (e.g., believing they are highly capable).Action: You subconsciously treat them differently based on this belief—offering more encouragement, deeper feedback, or greater challenges.Internalization: The person absorbs your high expectations and their self-belief grows.Outcome: Their performance improves, confirming your initial belief.The Opposite: The Golem EffectWhile the Pygmalion effect focuses on positive expectations yielding better results, the Golem effect demonstrates the dark side of self-fulfilling prophecies. When a leader, teacher, or parent holds low expectations for someone, they often offer less support and fewer opportunities. As a result, the individual's performance declines, confirming the initially negative judgment.Related ConceptsThe Pygmalion effect is a cornerstone concept studied in social psychology and is closely tied to two other ideas:Self-Efficacy: Unlike a self-fulfilling prophecy that relies on someone else's expectations, self-efficacy is your own internal belief in your ability to succeed.The Galatea Effect: This occurs when an individual's own high expectations for themselves drive their performance and success, essentially acting as an internal Pygmalion effect.To dive deeper into psychology, you might be interested in exploring famous experiments—like the foundational Rosenthal-Jacobson study on teacher expectations and student IQs—or learning how to apply these concepts in professional leadership.
Also, consider this idea's relevance: The intergenerational transmission of child abuse, neglect, and alcoholism is real, though detection bias frequently exaggerates the perceived rate of these cycles. The scientific consensus acknowledges that both environmental and genetic factors pass these behaviors from generation to generation, but the narrative is more nuanced than a simple, inevitable cycle.
National Institutes of Health (.gov)
Child Abuse and Neglect
The Reality: Research, including long-term prospective studies, confirms that children of parents with a history of abuse are at a higher risk of suffering neglect and sexual abuse themselves. However, the majority (roughly 70-90%) of individuals who experience childhood abuse do not go on to abuse their own children.
National Institutes of Health (.gov)
The Detection Bias: Families with a known history of child protective services (CPS) involvement are subjected to much closer scrutiny. When parents who were abused as children take their own children to doctors or schools, professionals are hyper-vigilant for warning signs. This surveillance bias means their minor infractions are much more likely to be reported and officially documented, inflating the statistical rates of "transmission" when measured by agency records.
National Institutes of Health (.gov)
Alcoholism
The Reality: Alcoholism (and Alcohol Use Disorder - AUD) involves a significant, scientifically proven genetic component. Children of parents with AUD are inherently more vulnerable due to a combination of hereditary predispositions to addiction and the psychological trauma of growing up in an unstable environment.
ResearchGate
The Detection Bias: Just as with abuse, families dealing with alcoholism are highly visible to neighbors, schools, and social agencies. Behavioral and emotional struggles in the children are immediately associated with the parents' drinking, whereas identical struggles in "normal" households might be attributed to typical childhood growing pains.
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