Mr.Mist
Shure, I think it could work. As said in earlier comments, the physical thing wont be there, only the spirituall. Nothing wrong with that in my eyes. Its a gr8 way to get to know somebody, without the embarrasing quiet moments, as when you meet face to face, and really dont know anything about the person you`re talking to. Over the net you get to know each other in an other way then in "real life"..and that is a gr8 foundation for later.

The ones you meet on the net are real people, just like you and me..with feelings and all what comes along.
I think that long distance relationships can work to a certain point. It all depends on the persons involved in the relationship. Some dont believe in then, other do. I choose to believe, untill the opposite is proved. It doesnt matter who, or where, as long as there is love and trust, I think it could work..

It all depends on the people involved, and how the situation are between thoose people......

-mr.m
2007-01-12

It is possible to have an intellectual relationship, but not an actually relationship with a completly develeped love is impossible. YOu must know how a person acts and how the show their emotions physically first. You can find out chemistry on the internet it happens. I know you can find love on the phone, because thats how mine was introduced, i guess you could love some1 for their words.

~Kiva
2007-01-02

tony legba
I'm not sure that Plato ever framed that question in The Symposium. He did suggest, however, via his character Socrates, that there were two forms of Love, the higher and the lower, one--ever since termed Platonic--was the consummation of the soul whist the other was the consummation of the body. Liz raises this Platonic question. I see that the point has been made by an Editor that Poetbay is poetry first, person second, and is not a dating agency! Fair point! But, if people are going to share poems--writing of an intimate nature--then it is quite likely that a friendship will result. Love ever seems to mean "romanticism" on Poetbay, so the question becomes warped into: Can a romantic relationship across the interent be a good thing? But there are many forms of love and many forms of relationship consequently. Compare what Liz suggests with Michelangelo writing poetry do Vita de Colona in Renaissance Italy. Michelangelo was gay, he rarely met his Muse, but the male-female relationship between them was intense. Liz is right: writing carries its own kinds of relationship... which operate in many ways. The danger is to confuse them with the everyday, the sexual as a corrupt society defines it, and try to model something virtual on something real.
2007-01-01

To clarify my opinion on this topic, yes I do think they can work, just like any relationship, but in love it takes 100% commitment and trust counts for a great deal. I think you can never fully know a person until you have met face to face but you can get to know a person extremely was when you do meet, feel like you know each other, just like you can when meeting a person for the first time and feeling like you have known them a lifetime. Internet relationships can be very special because the internet is full of missunderstanding and shadowy interpretations, and also you really have to like each other to keep communicating, and I think, we communcate more on the net than most relationships in ground time do, so a deeper understanding is inevitable, faster.

There are users and abusers out there too though, so utmost care is advised, never give out your address, email or otherwise, until you can fully verify who a person is.

So I do approve and think they can work, or I would not have bothered in the first place!

Smiling at the memories

Tai
2006-12-30

Hmmmm, it is a highly topical discussion point indeed. To me, the folk I meet on the net and have done since I first got it in 2002, are just as real as any bod I meet in the street, not as real as family and friends that have been in your life forever or otherwise, but people who have, like others have said, made me smile, laugh, cry and all the other emotions, just the same as any other person I have had a connection with in my life.

This year I have experienced all sorts of situation, very real, through friends and enemies I have met on the net. Mainly friends! Thank the lord.

Love is no different imo. It is a difficult medium to negotiate a happy ending in a relationship, but for me, it was the only viable option, coming from a very rural, uncultured community setting, I had first to satisfy my interlectual compatability needs and look world wide and naturally I veered towards the romantic hearts of the poet, but physical attractions came fast and furious in second place, infact overtook the interlectual need by a mile!lol Then contextual input sealed my fate to fall in love.

The problems come where trust is not equal, nor is motive, and also probably when we pretend to be something or someone we are not, me for instance!lol Young at heart and sexy and seemingly freely giving of sensual lust, which I was with him, when really that was just a persona of the poet I was becomming, it that period of my time, ie I was growing into a single woman, I think often the poet is actually an opposite reflection in real life to that of the written word on their pad.

We express in poetry what we can't otherwise maybe! I don't blame anyone now, I did him for a long time, he hurt me so much. I just put it down to experience I needed to learn the hard way.

Relationships are a dangerous game, I would rather not play at them, I want them to be true and lasting and a growing experience. Casual sex just isn't something I can do, despite wanting to!lol

Thanks for this platform to express myself. Feel much better now too!lol

Tai
2006-12-30

liz munro
You also have to remember, that you
don't just have to phyiscally connet with
someone, the best plus for this debate, I believe,
is that you connect on an interlectual level first.

The most important points that I think work for
an internet relationship are to connect:

Interlectually,
Emotionally
and
Spiritually.

Even if you're of different faiths,
you can still connect with someone on
a spiritual level.
2006-12-30

wee2souls
you can have a real good relationship online and make bestfriends and can be as close as family as i have met a few who are dear to my heart and they know who they are,,
but.. ROMANTIC my views on that well,,,people get hurt or they believe in the other as words can say so much..but there is cost
when you fall in love or have a romantic relationship..just gives false and mixed messages..as i feel romance should be real as in person..but there is nothing wrong in flirting or cybersex lol!!
as long as you know you wont get hurt!!so romantic no!! but cybersex ..yes lol..in honesty I dont believe in romance online as i have had friends and loved ones get hurt and i believe who ever gets into a relationship more then just friends online well....should have a brain to realize they can just log off!!
thats my opinion..romance online...hocus pocus!yada yada yada
GET REAL!!:)

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